Domestic abuse conditions us to feel helpless. But, we are more powerful than we often realise – and we can release that power whenever we want.
The dynamics of domestic abuse mean we feel powerless. We focus on trying to change an abuser that we can’t fix. Pouring our energy and resources into getting him to behave like a decent human being leaves us exhausted. Our health and wellbeing deteriorates. Eventually, we stop trying and concentrate on coping with what he doles out.
We feel there’s a million reasons why we can’t leave. We relinquish to him the control that he craves. We ignore our own power. In the soul-sapping avalanche of abuse, we forget that we are able – always – to improve our lives.
However, no matter how helpless we feel, we can seize back control. We can unleash our power, and use it to close the door on our abuser. Any time we want. That’s pretty amazing.
“The most common way people give up their power, is by thinking they don’t have any.” Alice Walker
What will you do when you recognise your power? If you’ve already left your abuser, how did it feel to seize back control?
ALSO SEE: Information on disengaging from domestic abuse, in Escaping Abuse.
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